I would suggest you gather all of the information you can regarding his medical conditions and needs. You could get this information from the internet.
Educate yourself!! STUDY and know his medical conditions. Prove that you are sensitive to his medical needs and that you are knowledgeable on how to deal with them.
The more you know, the better you are able to provide a stable environment.
Do you have family that is supporting you? Are they close by and available? They should be doing the same things. Provide an extended support system for you and your child. Prove that you and your family are knowledgeable and capable of providing for him.
You are allowed to request that family members or others for support, be allowed to attend access visits with you. Do not leave yourself alone. Make sure all parties interested in the well being of this child have an opportunity to show support to him, and their intentions to support you during this ordeal.
Gather support, gathers evidence and gather knowledge!
You need to prove that you are a mature, responsible and loving parent, and that your intentions are to provide the best possible care and all the love he needs.
Keep your resentment in check and use this energy to improve yourself. Remember..... this is about the best interests of the child. This is all you have to prove.
You will never stand taller, than when you stoop to help a child!
Why is it ok for the child to be sent to the hospital 20 plus times while in care but the foster hag is not held accountable, but because the parent has the child at the hospital it their fault...Stay strong and tape everything, its your right to do this, they dont like it but to bad.....they picked you to mess with not the other way around.....and if their reason was because they thought you were starving your child and it was because of his illness they dont really have a leg to stand on....do you have it in writing why they took your child? they cant keep changing their minds because it suits them....make them stick to the original reason. And your lawyer works for you not the cas, and has an oath to uphold and give you the best councel she can, make her accountable too....once they see you are starting to back down, your done. And dont allow them around your other children they will start asking questions and turning it around to take them too, they are not your friend and dont be fooled by them, they are baby snatching morons.
yeah your extended visits are a good sign, you are very lucky most only get one hour a week supervised, for me that means about 15 min a week with each child, hardly enough to prove myself as I have 4 girls.
thanks all. ya i have educated myslef around what he has which is gastroesophagul reflux disease (GERD, and feeding adversion where he has a G tube inserted in his tummy. he just had the surgery on feb 13/07. He also had a nissen fundiplication where they wrap some of the stomach around the esophagus to prevent him from vomitting so that when everything he eats isnt coming right back up. He has had a few spouts of vomitting in the foster moms care which made us all very worried that something happened with the surgery and it reversed but he went back to where he had it and they ran tests and was proven to be fine. So they put him back on max dose of his acid block med for his acid reflux thinking that would control his vomitting so he would tolerate his tube feeds better. H e was in the hosp for vomitting, gagging and coughing recently. He has displyed bad behavioural probs since in care like head banging,hitting,gagging himself, forcing himself to vomit etc. Also recently since also being in care my son took a petite mal seizure which really worried me. He never displayed all of this when in our care and never too seizures whats going on any advice is helpful. SAlso when he was in our care we made all appts and no cancellations, and when something was wrong took him to the hosp which was only like 7 times maybe in our care and well over 20 times in there care. But i find when i bring that subject up they always use the accuse well the foster mom is only concerned with his care well what was i u know like geesh. So ya i find foster moms have alot more leeway and its not fair at all. we have other children who are healthy and doing fine and i have had cas involved before for them and never taken. also cas says cause my case is open they have access to my other kids and have to keep coming to check up like once a month is that true?
i was wodnering if i could have advice on something else also, cas is trying to tell me and my hubby that neither of us are allowed to work and if we do it could go against us for getting him back. my opinion on this is that me or my hubby should be allowed to work as long as one of us is home to care for our son once he is returned with the needs involved in him. We are currently on social assistant(welfare) and the rules for that is if we are offered work we are not allowed to turn it down or we could be cut off. they will allow us leeway once our son is home but still one of us should be out working while one is home thats how they look at things. Another is it ok for the father to be at home as a caregiver to there child as it used to be that way for mother's because i ahve applied for a job and my hubby may have to be here to do the visits while im working. i dunno cause im afraid cas will use it in court and i will lose my son cause im working but i have other kids to support also and welfare just done give us enough money
do not quit work as then they will use that against you also..the new one will be you cannot support yourself ..tell your lawyer these things and also tell the court what they are trying to do ..
You can get those tape recorders at futureshop for much under $50.00. Let me put it this way, would you rather lose 50 bucks or less or lose your child?
You need to be tape recording these morons and use those stupid comments against them in court.
Post by darrensgirl on May 2, 2007 10:51:47 GMT -5
yeah they did it to me too years ago, I got accepted into college to take the child and youth worker course, I got told I could not take it. Now I see why as they wouldn't have gotten my children if I had of gone.
Don't quit work, I had to because of some medical problems with my back and stuff, and it was used against me at the time, this time around it was that after they cut off my baby bonus, once the kids came home I was short $1200 and apparently couldn't send enough snacks for school lunches. I managed but of course in cas papers it says the lunch appeared healthy but yet they used it against me...
Post by smartlady23 on May 2, 2007 18:21:21 GMT -5
ty all yes i know i need to get a recorder and that they arent much but really guys my money situation is awful right now and just trying to focus on getting my son back. Ya i went to college for dental assisting and they had it in my papers then that i was too busy to care for my son. But i ahvent been able to find work but wonder sometimes if its worth looking cause cas give me so much grief about working when i should be home with my son blah blah blah u know its alot of stress sometimes a person like me cant take. but ya i love what i do and with my hubby being into computer's he can at least work from home so no biggie i think but they look at things in a different manner.
Post by smartlady23 on May 2, 2007 18:23:55 GMT -5
and i dont think the courts know about the working thing cas is doing to me but i do know my lawyer knows how i feel about working and needing to support my other kids as well but the way she looks at it is my son thats in care should be my main priority and she agrees but in her eyes neither of us should work she is through legal aide so sometimes i wonder maybe thats why she isnt working as hard for me
I had this worker that told me to cut back on my work to see the children more or make different arrangements to see them more I was going to see if I can get some leave from work at the time I was working 12 hour continental shifts so I was hardly at home I may see my wife and children 2hrs. at night and maybe 2 hours in the morning when I came home. But this worker took our daughter from school without us knowing anything then calls our home while we were trying to find out what happened to our daughter when she did not get off the school bus and then tells us that he was going to bring our daughter home in 15 minutes 2 hrs. go by the Brantford police and this worker shows up with out our daughter telling my wife and I that we did something terrible to our daughter we had no idea what he was talking about we had this before by the CAS that every time we found help for our children they come in and make up some of the most ridiculous stories up. Getting back to my work schedule I spent little time at home but in their affidavits said I was at home all the time drinking all the time and lazy I did nothing to support our children what a pile of BS they made up. Why I was working so hard and same with my wife is to pay for all their damages to the family they never once helped us when we needed help my wife did all the hard work to find the people that would help us with our children all to be ruined by the Brantford CAS.
Post by smartlady23 on May 2, 2007 21:02:20 GMT -5
so so sry to hear what the cas did to use. Ya they have been giving us alot of grief saying that one of should be home to care for our son cause he has so many problems wrong with him and we arent allowed to put him in daycare to work. Yet on the other hand my lawyer tells us neither of us should work we should both be home with our son. And thats alot of stress on one person especially us. they took my child saying he was neglected and malnutritioned because we took him to the hosp for not wanting to eat. and now after a yr going by he has a feeding tube and has for over a yr now and has had to have surgery cause they found inside problems wrong with him and why he was always vomitting plus he has acid reflux. So i mean in the beginning it was our fault he was like he is and still they are pointing fingers but yet he has medical probs and they dont wanna admit it. They want 6 months society wardship and dont feel we can care for him but the judge has extended my visits so im hoping he is giving me the opportunity to prove we can care for him. Like my hubby cant find work so there is a few positions in my feild i applied to is it wrong to have my hubby do the visits if i get a call for a job or should i have to do them?
Post by smartlady23 on May 2, 2007 21:42:33 GMT -5
really so what example is that setting though we are on welfare and need another source of income because what we get just isnt enough. We have other children that we need to support also and thats where the stress comes into it all
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